18th August, 2023
Life is filled with opportunities to choose between making a big deal out of something or simply letting it go, realizing it doesn’t really matter.
If you choose your battles wisely, you’ll be far more effective in winning those that are truly important.
Certainly, there will be times when you will want or need to argue, confront, or even fight for something you believe in.
Many people, however, argue, confront, and fight over practically anything, turning their lives into a series of battles over relatively “small stuff.”
There is so much frustration in living this type of life that you lose track of what is truly relevant.
The truth is, life is rarely exactly the way we want it to be, and other people often don’t act as we would like them to.
Moment to moment, there are aspects of life that we like and others that we don’t. There are always going to be people who disagree with you, people who do things differently, and things that don’t work out.
If you fight against this basic principle of life, you’ll spend most of your life fighting battles.
A more peaceful way to live is to decide consciously which battles are worth fighting and which are better left alone.
If your primary goal isn’t to have everything work out perfectly but instead to live a relatively stress-free life, you’ll find that most battles pull you away from your most tranquil feelings.
Is it really important that you prove to your spouse that you are right and she is wrong, or that you confront someone simply because it appears as though he or she has made a minor mistake?
Does your preference of which restaurant or movie to go to matter enough to argue over it?
Does a small scratch on your car really warrant a police case?
Does the fact that your neighbour won’t park his car on a different part of the street have to be discussed at your family dinner table?
Does every action of your favourite politician or political party warrant a debate?
These and thousands of other small things are what many people spend their lives fighting about.
Take a look at your own list or look back at your major arguments or disagreements in the last one week or one month & you might want to re-evaluate your priorities.
Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight.
You don’t have to respond to every insult or every ball that is thrown at you. Fiddling with a ball outside the stumps will most likely result in losing your wicket. Let it go.
It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction.
Life is too short to spend it on arguing or fighting with family, friends or strangers.
Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go & stay blessed forever.