27th January 2026
For me, this is one of the most important learnings, probably because I’ve felt the pain of that lesson far too many times.
My life improved dramatically when I stopped sacrificing myself in an effort to meet the narratives that other people had about me.
I shall like to illustrate by sharing one of my favorite fables:
A man and his son were bringing their donkey to the market.
As they were walking along the path, a man passed them and said, “You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?”
So the man put the boy on the donkey and continued. They passed a group of men, one of whom said, “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”
So the man ordered his boy to get off, and he got on himself. They passed two women, one of whom whispered to the other, “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor son trudge along.”
So the man took his boy up with him on the donkey. A crowd of onlookers yelled, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that donkey?”
So the man and boy got off and carried the donkey on their shoulders. As they crossed a bridge, it kicked loose, fell over the side, and drowned.
“That will teach you,” said an old man who had quietly followed them from the beginning of the journey.
“Please all, and you will please none.”
This offers a useful framing for our own experience and life:
Where are you surrendering your self-direction to the noise from the crowd?
In your life, there will always be someone standing on the side of the road waiting to tell you that you’re doing it wrong. Telling you to change, To be realistic, To scale back your ambitions, To blend in etc etc.
But remember: You are not responsible for the narratives that other people have about you, your growth, or your journey.
You are the author of your own story. You are at the wheel.
In 2026, Never let go the wheel, you decide the narrative, don’t try to please all & stay blessed forever.