19th January 2026
Finding your “North star” or, in other words, your true calling in life means discovering your core purpose, values, and guiding principles, often through self-reflection on passions, beliefs, and ideal future, much like the actual Polaris guides navigators.
Finding your North Star helps you to be intentional as you build your life and advance your career. It gives you a reference point to keep you moving in the right direction. And it helps you recognize when you may be going down the wrong path.
In my experience, even people who, from the outside, look like they have their lives in perfect order often feel unfulfilled. And it’s usually because, even though they are successful by outside standards, they haven’t found their own North Star. They aren’t doing work that deeply matters to them. They may not like the people they’re working with. They may not like the way their daily life is structured. So, they’re often unhappy and unfulfilled even though everyone around them considers them to be very successful.
What about you? Does this resonate? Do you ever find yourself unhappy and unfulfilled, even though you’ve got a successful career?
How can you create a more fulfilling, meaningful life for yourself?
How can you find your own North Star? Here are 10 questions to help you reflect:
1. Who are your real-life heroes, and what do you admire about them? Is it a colleague? Your first boss? A fellow business owner? Who inspires you, and what about them is inspiring to you? This will give you important clues into your own values and priorities.
2. What professional accomplishments gave you the most personal satisfaction, that you are most personally proud of and why? For me, it is the books I have written & blogs I write & post daily apart from helping clients achieve theor financial goals.
3. Who are your three favorite clients or customers that you’ve worked with in your career? What did you enjoy about working with them? Why do you think they stand out to you? What do these clients have in common? Sometimes your answer to this question will help you focus your professional work.
4. What type of clients, customers or projects do you not enjoy working with or on? This is a good clue, too, as it gives you a sense of what type of work you want to avoid moving forward.
5. If money wasn’t an issue, how would you spend your time? I know, I know… you’d probably start with a nice long vacation somewhere. But sooner or later, you’d want to get back to doing meaningful work, so how would you choose to spend your time? What type of impact would you have on your corner of the world?
6. What type of legacy do you want to leave behind? What do you want to be remembered for? How do you want your kids, your friends, your family to remember you? What values or accomplishments do you hope stand out to them?
7. What qualities or skills do professional colleagues most appreciate about you? If you’re not sure, ask them! Often you’ll be surprised by what you learn. Many times, we take for granted some of the traits that other people most appreciate about us. This can be a great way to tap into what really makes you unique.
8. What qualities or skills do friends and family members most appreciate about you? This is the same question, but this time from the perspective of your friends and family who know you in a very different capacity than your professional colleagues.
9. What type of work makes you feel alive? Are there certain types of work that make you feel especially engaged and “in the zone?” For me, that happens when I’m dealing with clients one-on-one. And it happens when I’m creating—writing a book or an article, preparing a presentation! What about you? What makes you feel alive and energized?
10. What do you choose to do with your free time? When you have a free day on your calendar, a holiday or even just a Sunday with no obligations, what do you choose to do with your time? Hobbies can often provide insight, too.
Take some time and think through these 10 questions. This process will help you identify what really energizes you and keeps you excited about life. What type of work feels most personally fulfilling? Are you happy with the structure of your daily life or do you need to start thinking differently?
Remember, the first step to finding your own North Star is to stop letting other people’s opinions matter so much. It’s your life, not theirs!
Find your North Star & stay blessed forever.